The Mundane World

oakcity:

You know when you sit in your car and sob in the Harris Teeter parking lot?

Yeah, it’s been that kind of day.

I’m a weeper. We know this. I cry at greeting cards that aren’t even filled out at Hallmark. I cry at dog food commercials, news stories, cute baby videos on youtube.

But mostly, I do a…

That’s not an unfair thing to think or admit.  Taking care of ourselves is also an important part of taking care of others.  We can’t be super heroes all the time.

Don’t feel ashamed of the way you feel right now.  It’s perfectly reasonable given you and your families situation.  It feels like the worst thing in the world right now, and I would bet it’s damn near close.  Just because there are actually people worse off than you does not mean your feelings are invalid.  You can only live and understand your life within the context of your own life.  It’s not fair to you or others to compare yourself to others, better or worse.

You are entitled to your feelings, and if you feel like the world is falling apart, then that is ok.  Get it out, cry or scream or whatever you feel like you need to do.  If you aren’t honest about how you feel then your feelings will eventually cripple you.

And you don’t try to be a good person, you are a good person.  It’s not something you have to try to do, you just do it!  And good people have times when their lives fall apart.  But good people survive, even if they have to let a few buckets of tears out first.

And you have people in your life who love you that don’t depend on you.  Right now is exactly the time you have friends like that, so you can depend on them.  Don’t be ashamed of needing help, be ashamed of needing in and not getting it.

You are under no obligation to be a super hero.  Being Allison is more than most people can ever aspire to be.  You are a person, so your heart will break from time to time.  But once it breaks, it can start healing again.

I’m sorry I’m not around to be there for you, but you have all my love and whatever support I can offer.  If I can do something let me or Erica know.  Until then, know that I love you, we love you, lots of people love you, and we will not think any less of you if you need to let it out every once in a while.  It’s ok to be sad, but there is no reason to be alone as well.  Too many people love you.

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oakcity:

As some of you, my dear followers, my know, both my parents work(ed) for this airline. My mom still works there, my dad has been on disability for about three years and is in the process of officially retiring…

There are a lot of things sad here.  I have only had the pleasure of getting to know one of the Caseys (I also meet her sisters once or twice), but if the rest of the family is but half as wonderful and lovely as she is then they are a treasure.  They are the kind of people that when bad things happen to them it really makes you wonder if the world ever really can be fair.

My heart goes out to you and your family.