So my neighbor is currently sprawled out on the back porch smoking the nastiest smelling weed I’ve ever smelled. I’m getting really sick of this. Last summer I was on the back porch every single day using it for one thing or another. I read out there, I worked out there, I cooked, I smoked, and more often than not I was just enjoying being outside. But now it’s too stressful even just sitting out there.
And here’s the rub, the problem is mostly my social anxiety. I can’t relax on the back porch knowing that either any minute my neighbor or her dog will just randomly pop out on the back porch, or any time I walk out there I’ll be walking in on someone fucking or smoking up. Maybe my standards for privacy are just way too high because just the porch being shared made me anxious in the first place, but the fucking and smoking are just way too much.
The back porch is what made living in a tiny apartment bearable for me. Anytime I would feel cramped or smothered, I could always go to the back porch for my little section of nature that was all mine. Living in the city has gotten to me more than I thought it would, so my time to just have some trees and air steadily became more and more important. She fucks really loud but I feel like I can’t say much when it is inside her own apartment. I’m really loud too. But she continues to do all the same shit in the shared space, which means it is no long shared space, it’s her space.
So what do I do? Call the land lord? That seems a bit extreme. Have a sit down with her? That seems the most reasonable, but we barely know the girl and I don’t want our only real interaction with her to be us telling her how she’s fucking up. Also, we are not her fucking parents, she’s old enough that this kind of shit should go without saying.
I just have no fucking clue what to do and it’s really getting to me.